Mum upset after only 10 people showed up to her child’s 5th birthday 

An Australian mum has been left upset after only eight people bothered to show up to her child’s fifth birthday party – even though the whole class was invited. 

The mum posted on Facebook to see if she was being overly-emotional or if others found the rejection rude as well.

‘Only about 10 people RSVP’d, and then only eight kids turned up. Out of 25,’ she said.

The mum-of-two said the party was only an hour and a half long, the weather was beautiful and  weekend sport hasn’t yet started, leaving her confused as to why no-one bothered to show up.

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‘I just feel really disheartened, and next time will only invite a few close friends, because honestly, its not worth the effort,’ she said.

She also shared a picture of a beautiful unicorn cake made for her daughter, to share with a class-full of friends who didn’t show.

‘It’s a hideous, widespread issue of rudeness. I’m at the point where I text the parents and remind them of the RSVP as I am catering and need to be sure there is enough food. It’s passive aggressive but needs must,’ one woman said.

‘I don’t have any proper input, but hopefully she had a great time with the kids who made it and you had a few champagnes with the parents who arrived too,’ said another. 

Another said she is currently going through ‘the same thing’.

‘I have invited the whole class to a park near the school for my daughter’s birthday and only 10 people have RSVP’d so far,’ she said.

‘I’ve been class rep for my kids classes at school and tried to organise park play dates and dinners out for parents and had most people not bother even responding,’ another said. 

She asked if RSVP’ing was ‘still a thing’ and many agreed it isn’t hard to do.

 ‘That’s so rude. Doesn’t take much to flick a text through,’ one mum said.

Others said it is easy to forget to RSVP, but didn’t excuse it.

An Australian mum has been left disenchanted after only ten people bothered to show up to her child's fifth birthday party - even though the whole class was invited

An Australian mum has been left disenchanted after only ten people bothered to show up to her child’s fifth birthday party – even though the whole class was invited

‘It’s a good point. I know if I was heading away for the weekend I would have likely put the invite on the fridge meaning to message them ‘later’ but then in the flurry of getting ready and away I would have completely forgotten.

‘Something I know I need to work on personally, and doesn’t really help the poster but just trying to add some context around how it might not have been malicious or intentionally rude,’ one woman said.

‘I work three jobs and am a single mum, I try to RSVP no to things but often if my brain processes ‘no I can’t fit that in’ I then immediately forget it to reallocate my brain space… not intentionally impolite, just trying to keep afloat, another said.

And some said the parents might never have known about the party.

‘Have the invites made it home? I invited the whole class also, when I asked a couple parents where their kids were, they hadn’t seen the invitation. One boy said ‘oh, I lost my ticket’,’ one mum said.

‘It is rude but agree things can get lost between school and home,’ said another.

Others said no RSVP for ‘bulk-invite events’ is normal.

‘I think it’s when it’s a mass invite you’re less likely to get an RSVP, for a no or yes. Unless it’s an event like a wedding. But a kids birthday party where you have invited the whole class, meh the decline is silence and people will probably only respond if they are definitely coming OR feel close to you and want to let you know they can’t make it, otherwise no response is a no most of the time,’ one woman explained.

‘Not RSVP-ing is fine. Its annoying when you can see they’ve seen the invite but not responded (like when you send Facebook invites to people), but you just assume they’re not attending. What I can’t stand is when people say they’re attending then don’t show up or even contact you to say they cant come,’ said another.

‘I think the standard has become to RSVP yes if you’re attending and no response also means no,’ another agreed.